We All Have One Choice to Make
Life is filled with choices and decisions. Big or small, it doesn't matter, we all have hundreds to make every day. The reality is that it is the same choice in every single situation. And we can look at from a couple of perspectives.
Firstly, will the choice I make heighten the situation or destroy it? In other words, will my action inspire further creation and joy and add on to what is (be a positive impact) or will it impede and cause friction and be destructive (be a negative impact). This is in line with my previous post: Yes, and! You're either respecting the person you're with and listening to them and building off them or you are saying no and not listen to them and disrespecting them, killing the moment. Which person do you wish to be?
That brings me to the other perspective. Will my participation in this situation get me to where and who I want to be? In the negative example above, unless you wish to be a friendless, lonely asshole, you will be a nice and kind person. (Not to be confused with a spineless, people-pleasing sap!) If you want to eat, then it is advisable to not to piss off the chef. If you wish to be vibrant than you should not hang out with someone, young or old, who is not at the same vibrational frequency you wish to operate at. So does this person truly support me in a positive and beneficial way? Do these things in my life heighten it and bring me joy or do they suffocate me and hold me back? All in favor of minimalism / intentional living, say I! If the answer is no, then it's time to move on, regardless if they are family or friend or work colleagues. Or regardless if you've just purchased the item. Get rid of it (and make more conscious decisions). Create the space and life you wish to have for your true authentic self to flourish with ease and eliminate the distractions and unnecessary obstacle.
At some point we need to recognize that we create our reality. Our thoughts, feelings, and actions create our sense of being. And this in turn will manifest into our reality. But you have to truly think and feel and take action as if it has already happened. Life is so much easier if we create our worlds filled with positive and supportive things. As much as we should not be affected by external environment, we should still make an effort to create a world that elevates us and causes the least amount of friction. So that our patience and tolerance isn't constantly being tested and stressed.
Be the light. Be the better person. And if the people in your world constantly try to bring you down, then it's time to change it up.