What Game Are You Playing?

Games. We love to play them. And they are one of the most beautiful things of being human. There are a multitude of them and we can play a number of them– each one with a different role. Some of these games are fun and positive and others... well... not so much.

At which point we should ask ourselves: Is this game I'm playing and the role within it serving me?

If it isn't, then... stop! This question obviously asks honest objectivity of ourselves, and therefore, the accompanying self-awareness. In which case, it could be difficult for some to truly see– hello, narcissist. I still find it shocking that some people truly can't step outside themselves and see what they have done, how they reacted, what they said, how it was perceived. But they exist. Even in Presidents...

I am truly grateful that I acquired this in my twenties through a number of eye opening experiences, that for now I will just call: life lessons. It also came with the ability to apologize when behavior crossed boundaries. It's healthy, part of a mature character. Or at least going in that direction.

So, are the negative games of playing the role of prince/princess, victim, instigator/provoker, entitled, and the like cropping up more often in your life? If so, then it's time to ask yourself if it's serving you. And play another game with another role, like successful provider, courageous citizen, valor, honorable friend and relative. These are much more admirable and a hell of a lot more fun. And the strength of character that gets build and projected is far more sexier and attractive. Attributes like discipline, control (not necessarily like restraint in a negative way), focus, commitment, giving, gracious, generous. These are exemplary and virtuous.

Taking control of ourselves, our reactions, and staying the course to our clearly defined goals and who we want to be in life are less energy draining and a lot more fun. This requires a perception shift from external to internal. Because let's be honest. Playing the victim is not sexy and attractive, it is not mature, and it shows that you lack self-control. I not saying we are never the victim. I'm just saying don't play it and dwell on it and get back out there and try again.

So let's fail forward as we take control and full responsibility for our lives and everything that happens in it. We are in control of our success. And if anything, maintaining good character is success in its own right. So when it doesn't go right. Take a breath. Or two... assess the situation and pivot. Adapt and try again.

To a more positive, joyful, and loving role.